We all know that us women are very complicated, we are not sure about what we want at all times. Sometimes we cry for no reason and we can’t even explain why, at times we laugh at little things around us that make no sense. If we don’t understand our own feelings, how do you expect to understand us?
Well, you simply don’t. We are not meant to be understood.
I’m not a big fan of women who decides to sit home and start a family just to take care of their own children, not that I’m saying they shouldn’t
and that women should just start thinking about their career and stand on their own feet. Not that anything’s bad with that either, but I have seen my mother and all I could tell you is that.. The amount of compassion and love that beautiful woman has, it’s unfair that she only gets to share it with my sister and I.
Women are beautiful. So are men. But us women are suppose to be elegant, crazy, loving, innocent yet fierce, humble, down to earth and completely in control.
If we are that complex when it comes to our feelings, it’s because we are capable of doing so much more and so many things all at once that we don’t even realise it.
We can start a family and yet have a career and balance it both at the same time, cause trust me, we are capable of that. If you want to be a housewife and a loving mother, great! If that’s what you want then I’m sure you’re going to ace it. If you want to have a career and maybe later think about having a family, awesome! I’m sure, you’ll be great at that too!
Here’s a little brief on myself, how I would like to end up, as a woman. While growing up, I watched my mother balance it all. Every little thing at home, she had it under control. Sometimes I used to be scared and mesmerised by her senses, she could tell what’s happening downstairs or upstairs without even being on the same floor. She knows every single family member of hers and my father’s family, the way she took care of my grandparents and us as children at the same time was beyond my understanding, not to forget, also being there for my father when he came home. She’s a mother, a daughter, a wife and an independent woman all at the same time. Ma sha Allah! And maybe someday I’ll be like her, God do I want to be like her!
But, I want to be more than that; I would like to be like my mother and my father.
I have seen my father be proud of himself, as he started his own business without any help from his family, just to prove a point and boy did he prove everyone wrong.
While growing up in Bangladesh, my parents had to hear one thing on and on, you have two daughters, who’s going to take care of the business and all the properties?
My parents always took the criticism with a smile and replied, I have two children, I couldn’t care any less about the gender. My father also used to add, the way my wife took care of both the families, I would say as a man, I was not even half as good as her.
The more I grew up and spoke to my friends, the more I realised how blessed I was and still am to have them as my parents. I grew up in a very laid back, funny, environment. Even to this day, my father notices every little thing my mother does, and vice versa. And I see the unspoken love they have for each other and my father always would tell us, how amazing our mother is.
This beautiful woman has dedicated herself to this family, giving up her career, but she never for once regretted that although my father has. My father would always say, I should have forced your mother to study afterwards because she could have been better than me today at whatever she would have planned to do.
Hence my father advised us one thing; be whoever you want to be in life, in fact be it all and don’t just put limits in your dreams. When you think about it, it makes no sense and if you tell him that, he would reply with a question, "Does anything ever make sense?" -_-
My suggestion would be, don’t limit yourself please? You have so much potential. Don’t just focus on your career and ignore your family? Don’t just be a housewife and sit at home when you could do so much more?
Be the kind of a woman, who can do it all. Because we are much stronger than any species I know! Just learn to balance it out and you will be just fine. Be the kind of a person, you will love, the kind of a person everyone would want to be.
Love others immensely and don’t give up hope, isn’t that what we are best known for?
You’re beautiful in every single way, and you know it!
Love, Nowshin.
Also, watch this beautiful video.
http://9gag.tv/p/a9Z1Om/this-video-of-parents-teaching-their-babies-to-swim-is-full-of-love
